“The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived.” What does it mean to be career resile? Let’s start with the basics. What does resile mean? The origin of the word is Latin, resilire. It’s really been my word for 2020. You are probably familiar with the word resilient. I think we all have proven our resiliency in the past months. Let us clarify the difference. Resilient Versus Resile According to Merriam-Webster the word "resilient" focuses on the ability to "bounce back" from damage, whereas "resile" generally applies to someone or something that withdraws from an agreement or "jumps back" from a stated position. Do you feel that you are bouncing back in your career? Let’s dig a little deeper. How about withdrawing from situations that you took for granted? Reality check! You and I have been jumping back and forth between being resilient and resile? How are these two words connected? They are united by the same origin: the Latin verb resilire. Typically, you would think that two words with a common origin should share the same meaning. You would find them in different word classes or parts of speech depending on the part they play in a sentence such as an adjective or an adverb. While they seem contradictory, the two words explain what each one of us has been going through. You are resilient and resile! Resilient Resilient is an adjective. The pandemic, with every unique scenario it presented, offered you resilience as the only way to survive. The unprecedented challenges meant that perhaps you lost your job, you felt bad and was hurt immensely, yet you chose to move forward. The “new normal” forced you to get up and somehow you bounced back. And no matter what, we continue to manage to try one more time. WE are resilient! “Like tiny seeds with potent power to push through tough ground and become mighty trees, we hold innate reserves of unimaginable strength. We are resilient” ResileResile is a verb. It is the act of taking a different stance. We had to do that during the pandemic. Many in-person events that we took for granted were canceled only to be rescheduled virtually. Many schools and universities had to plan for three classroom scenarios: in-person, completely virtual or somewhere in between. We became familiar with the word furlough, where if not us, someone we knew was given a temporary leave and no one knew for how long. Resile is definitely the word of the year for all of us. “Success needs a special attitude in a person – not to resile from one’s own ambition”  Career Resile How does resile fit in your career? You career resile by “jumping back” from a stated path to your ambitions. You reflect to pick up the pieces and say let me look at my career from a different angle. You strive to creatively move forward in your career while keeping your eyes on your goals. You culminate a reframed mindset that leads to your continuous career success. While you may resile from a planned career path, YOU do not resile from your ambition to succeed! Good News The good news is that we have survived by taking things one day at a time. We never lost sight of our career goals. Forward is forward...it doesn’t matter how slow we go 💪 Between being resilient and resile, YOU and I have survived as well.
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DO or DO NOT. There is no try - Yoda I am not sure why, but I am a big fan of this quote. Although if you think about it, it was what Yoda told Luke before this quote that matters. It is truly more important. If you are not familiar with it, here it is: The ConversationLuke: Master, moving around stones is one thing. This is totally different. Yoda: No! No different! Only different in your mind. You must unlearn what you have learned (this is the sentence I am talking about). Luke: (poor Luke gave this answer that led to the now famous quote above) Alright. I will give it a try. Learn To UnlearnFor Star Wars’ sake, when Yoda said, “unlearn what you have learned”, the purpose was to encourage Luke to believe and trust in the Force and all the power that comes with it. Now the reason I am talking about it here, is because I want you to believe and trust in your dream and all the power that comes with it.  The focus is then on unlearning or leaving behind any thoughts or ideas that are telling that your dream career or lifestyle is not realistic. Sounds easy; reflect on these thoughts, detail them and spend time shredding them to pieces. Easier said than done, you say?? Reach For The StarsAlright realistically, you will not be as powerful as Luke but you have the opportunity to prove me wrong. What I am aiming for is that you should dream BIG! You probably have heard this before; reach for the stars and think outside the box in how you are going to make your BIG dream a reality. More importantly, do not let others shoot down your stars (the negativity in what people can say and do, such as when someone laughed at one of my dreams, can be heartbreaking). If you do not believe that their comments or actions have value, you can move past them. And even more importantly, challenge your negative thoughts by figuring out the details that will lead you to the accomplishment of your dream. This is how you will unlearn what you have learned or forget what you have heard from unsupportive others! Finding a purpose that relates to your dream is one way to do it. Additionally, believing that you can achieve your dream puts you on the track to making your dream a reality. Finally, detailing the vision, emotions, sounds, obstacles and every other image that comes with this dream provides you with the path to reach it. Stop TryingOh, and here is where Yoda’s famous quote becomes important. Saying, “I’ll try” is not a good idea since it implies that you do not believe you can do it. What are you hoping to accomplish? A university degree, starting your own business, making a million dollars...You have BIG dreams and with these dreams your doubts are as BIG. This is understandable and very, very normal. In ShortYou really need to focus and think about how you will change your thoughts from “I’ll try” to, “I can”! One way that works for me (two of my recently accomplished BIG dreams were completing a doctorate degree and becoming a solo-entrepreneur) and many authors recommend is having a plan. Can you think of any other ways to change a doubt to a belief?
Now, please...stop saying I dream and let’s start the process and get to work. What are you waiting for? May the Force be with you! |
HodaDr. Hoda Kilani is a Certified Professional Career Coach (CPCC). As a career management professional, she works with clients in private practice, event facilitation (including carousels and vision boards), conference presentation, and writing. ConnectInvest 1/2 hour in your success. Book a free consultation to learn how Hoda helps you succeed.
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