Success doesn't come to you: you go to it – Marva Collins
I have talked in earlier blogs about the importance of networking when you are job seeking, and I realize that there are other tips that I need to share. What I am thinking of are characteristics or moods that you need to adopt rather than actions. In a series of articles, I will discuss the top moods that will carry you to success. Today’s mood: Optimism.
Optimism is the foundation of courage – Nicholas M Butler
You probably have been told this by many friends and family, “stay optimistic”. But what is optimism?
According to Merriam-Webster dictionary, optimism is
1) A doctrine that this world is the best world.
2) An inclination to put the most favourable construction upon actions and events or to anticipate the best possible outcomes.
I have rarely come upon optimism in the first sense, but the second definition is the one I am talking about.
The next question is, how do you stay optimistic?
I took the time to google optimistic and here is what I found: Optimistic is an adjective that means “hopeful and confident about the future”. I did not stop there and searched, “what/who is an optimistic person?” According to vocabulary.com, “An optimistic person thinks the best possible thing will happen, and hopes for it even if it's not likely. Someone who's a tad too confident this way is also sometimes called optimistic”.
I have to admit that asking you to stay optimistic that you will find a job “even if it’s not likely” may not seem logical. Yet as the quote affirms optimism is the foundation of courage, in this case the courage to never doubt that you will find a job. So how do you remain optimistic?
Researchers found that in order to remain optimistic and become an optimist, you need to condition yourself to stay positive. You start by creating positive situations that put you in an optimistic state of mind. This can be accomplished in one of three methods. You may need to utilize all three. However, you have to initially experiment with possible combinations in order to discover which of the following three methods or combinations work for you.
Surround yourself with images or photos that remind you of happy moments or help look forward to a happier future.
Perhaps easier said than done, yet waking up each morning with positive thoughts such as, “today will be a happy day” or “I am so excited going for walk this afternoon” do affect your attitude.
Planning experiences that make you happy is a sure way to add some positivity to your day. Experiences such as going for a walk, eating a cream puff or meeting with caring family and friends can be very helpful.
What are some other ways that you typically do to remain positive? Try them out and share what works for you.
Today’s Mood is all about optimism.
Remaining optimistic when failure strikes is not easy. Using optimism enhancing methods can help you alleviate some of your concerns and keep on the positive track to success. Follow some of the tips shared and try to be optimistic even when it is not likely. Wake up one morning and be an optimist for 24 hours. Researchers say your attitude matters and with an optimistic attitude they guarantee that you will feel the difference.
It works for me! Let me know if it works for you.
“Lifelong learning represents learning from cradle to grave, while focusing on learning that can take place both within and outside the education system”
Lifelong learning and reflection are my goals. They define my life’s vision. I am content. Are you?
Lifelong learning has led me to learn four languages, earn a doctorate degree, complete too many certificates and launch a small business. I am eager to keep going and I look forward to the next step. Do you have a goal that helps you get up every morning?
Reflection on my routine helps me compose my next step. I hang on and build on acceptable experiences. I let go of tedious and unpleasant involvements. I analyze, synthesize and evaluate to reveal what makes me happy. Have you ever tried to reflect on your day?
Where Are You Headed?
I know where I am headed and I realize that I will have to negotiate unpredictable events along the way. It’s ok. I will revisit and reframe My goals and vision will once again illuminate where I am headed and I will triumph. How flexible are your goals?
I find it excruciating to select a single purpose or passion. I have a few...what about you?
Your Career Direction
I focus on navigating career direction rather than discovering purpose. Reflecting on a question such as, what you would like to do now or next? is so much easier than, what is your purpose or passion? My direction is clear and guided by my objectives, core values and vision. What do you think?
I stopped trying to find my purpose when I realized I have many. I get energized when I help others succeed and it’s definitely one of my many purposes. How many purposes do you think you have?
I discourage clients from focusing on just one passion. Can you identify your one true passion?
Define Your Values
I encourage clients to unravel their core values. Achievement, challenge, growth and knowledge are some of mine. It’s ok to have many. My values guide how I move forward with a little bit of trepidation (fear of failure?) and a lot of confidence. What are some of your core values?
Too many questions for you to think about? Try responding to them one at a time and you will joyfully move forward.
I have figured out where I am headed. It took me a very long time but I am happy now. Are you?
Dr. Hoda Kilani is a Certified Professional Career Coach (CPCC). As a career management professional, she works with clients in private practice, event facilitation (including carousels and vision boards), conference presentation, and writing.
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