Show me a successful individual and I’ll show you someone who had real positive influences in his or her life
There is consensus about the unbelievably powerful influence of having people in your life who cheer you on. Without their support, you may be too scared to accomplish your dreams.
What People Say
Ralph Waldo Emerson describes it, “Our chief want in life is somebody who will make us do what we can”. Emerson was a successful person so you have to assume he knew what he was talking about. But he passed away a long time ago, in 1882 to be exact, and you can say that things have changed.
However, fast forward to today and Denzel Washington’s quote brings in a new perspective changing the value of a cheerleader for success from a want to a necessity. So how do you go about finding your cheerleader?
Finding Your Cheerleader
There are a few ways to find people who are willing to support you.
In the words of a young 14-year-old, “there are many people who want to help you, all you have to do is ask”. Her experience has always been positive about looking around her and selecting people who can help her best.
Having said that, it is important to select those people depending on your personal needs. For example, she knows to reach out for her mom when needing assistance in creative writing. When reflecting on careers, she does not hesitate to reach out to professionals or role models via email.
While some people flat out ignore her emails and others respond that they are too busy, a generous number are willing to meet with her and answer her questions.
Value of Cheerleaders
So why are cheerleaders, who can also be known as mentors, coaches or accountability partners, so important?
Superb! You Say, How Do I Go About It
Here are a few ways that you can establish a system of supportive others to build your career path:
Share Your Experience
Do you already have a person who is there for you when you need help? If not, can you think of other ways to find your cheerleader? Please share your experience.
On your way to fulfilling your dreams, having one or more cheerleader makes your journey easier as you realize goals, overcome setbacks and celebrate accomplishments.
Now is the time to start selecting the ideal members for your cheerleaders' club.
What are you waiting for?
As for the future, your task is not to foresee it but to enable it.
My clients, new acquaintances as well as many of you, my dear readers of my blog, often ask how did I uncover my career path. Here is a snippet of my career journey along with some tips that I hope will help you find your career path.
I work as a private practitioner. When I decided to embark on a journey as a solo career management professional, I knew that before I put in the extra hours to ensure that my practice takes off, I needed to refine my reasons for starting a business as a solopreneur.
Write Your Own Reasons
An excerpt of my reasons to help you write your own includes the following:
How Do You Commence Your Career Journey?
Simply put, you need a detailed action plan that starts with reasons similar to the ones stated above. Wait! Do NOT rush into creating the plan yet. This is the final step in the launch of your career journey. You have to do some exploratory work to discover your reasons. This can be an engaging experience if you come with the right mindset. Think of it as a bout of intense reflection.
Bouts Of Intense Reflection
I was not sure what my likes, interests and values were. It can be hard to define them if you have never thought about it. Like me, you can start your intense reflection contrary to what many specialists suggest; the activities you dislike and the skills you are certain you do not want to be using in your future career rather than with your likes and interests. This is very helpful and I suggest you use this unconventional method if you are uncertain about what you need to do to move forward; dissect what you hate to find out what you like.
Really Get To Know YOU
Once you get to know YOU, you are ready to move forward to uncover your skills, abilities and strengths.
Combine Your Reflection Results
Next step is to combine everything you have learned about yourself to start exploring possible careers.
You are well acquainted with YOU, now it is time to figure what kind of work makes YOU happy.
One of my joys was seeing others succeed whether in school or later on in life. Call me silly, but I cry at graduations and other similar work celebrations. I think of all the focus, failures and hard work that led to these special moments that I am overwhelmed with mixed emotions. Anyway, I realized that my work has to include seeing my clients succeed.
What invokes similar emotions for you? It could be a sales pitch, a competition or even crying at weddings. No emotional experience is too silly to explore!
This is what it takes to enable your future career vision.
Are You Ready?
Once you have collected all this data, you are ready to design your career action plan. Creating the action plan is for another blog post.
For now, how about you get to know what does YOU really like to do?
If you can stand in space just for a little while, a new door will open, or you’ll be able to see in the dark after a while, you’ll adjust
I host one hour chats every Friday. The topic changes every Friday and one particular is entitled, “Hoda’s Career Chat”. I started these free calls during the COVID-19 lockdown. I found myself always super excited to hear the proposed questions and shared ideas that I decided to keep the it going. Attendees can email any education or career related questions or concerns in advance or in the chat box during the chat.
Some of the questions during the height of the pandemic were related to stress such as, “How can I manage my stress level when I know I cannot find a job?” It can indeed be very stressful when all the economic, statistical and medical reports are negative.
Today, the questions have changed a bit and relate to adjusting life post pandemic or almost out of pandemic. Yet, questions on how to handle stress during these new normal times have not stopped.
Tips To Handle Stress
It may seem that posted jobs are scarce and the competition is fierce. How is one to remain positive in such an environment?
Do NOT panic!
I have compiled a step by step guide for you. Think of it as your go-to guide whenever stressful thoughts start creeping in:
Try It! What Do You Have To Lose
Try this step-by-step guide and let me know what you think. Some of you may find it easy to complete it in one sitting. Others may want to take their time reflecting on each step and may take a month or more to reach step six. This is your journey.
Take as much time as you need and remember that your focus should be to destress by envisioning a plan of your job search or career.
Let me know how it goes!
Dr. Hoda Kilani is a Certified Professional Career Coach (CPCC). As a career management professional, she works with clients in private practice, event facilitation (including carousels and vision boards), conference presentation, and writing.
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